If you travel around the UK, you may well have seen one of these posters for Missing People’s Find Every Child campaign, which includes the face of our son Andrew Gosden from a photo taken weeks before he vanished in 2007 aged just 14.
The #10YearChallenge trend currently on social media involves people comparing photographs of themselves 10 years apart. For most people, this is pretty easy to do. In our case, it forms more of a challenge.
During the process, we bounced suggestions back and forth as we tried to think how Andrew may look aged 25. Could he wear contacts? Have grown a beard? What could he have done with his hair? Might he have piercings or tattoos? We don’t know. As a family, we don’t even know if Andrew is still alive, less yet what decisions he may have made about his appearance over a decade. It is an emotional experience having to make educated guesses at how your own son may look.
It seems like such an everyday thing, knowing what someone looks like. I don’t think I would walk past my daughter in the street, but I fear I could walk past my son and never recognise him.
Our #10YearChallenge is one no parent would ever wish to face.
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